What Is Shadow Work & Why Is Everyone Talking About It?
Ladies and gentlemen pardon me while I rant.
Please let me direct your attention toward the Light.
I’ve heard so, so, so many “coaches” and “healers” speak on and about “shadow work.” I listened to all the ways life coaches spin “shadow work,” and it makes me crazy. The term originated with Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, Carl Jung.
According to Jung, shadow work comprises the aspects of one’s personality that are deemed shameful, unacceptable, and ugly. It can be envy, jealousy, rage, lust, desire for power, or the wounds incurred in childhood – all of those darker aspects of ourselves we keep hidden.
Jung believed everyone has a dark side to their personality.
He maintained when the human shadow is shunned, it tends to sabotage our lives. Repressing or suppressing one’s shadow can result in addictions, low self-esteem, mental illness, chronic illnesses, and various neuroses.
That’s all well and good coming from Jung. But hi concept of shadow work has been hijacked.
In general, I don’t recommend receiving healing advice from people who aren’t actual healers with intuitive gifts. The life-coach-marketing-sales-pitch people offering to guide clients through healing the shadow or darkness within others scares me.
I’ve seen people claim they have mastery of shadow work when they don’t, and terrible things happen. Those claiming to be able to lead another person to health get depressed. They open portals to dark energy, and they have no earthly idea of how to control it or free themselves of the dark energy they invited into this world and their life.
It takes a special kind of healer to help a person remove dark energy once it attaches to you. Trust me, I know. I’ve dealt with dark energy and needed the help of extraordinary healers to free myself from it.
Healing is light work. Light work isn’t all butterflies and fairy wings. It’s a process. It has stages, and they all lead up to your healing and happiness. What do shadows have to do with that?
What I’ve seen repeatedly is people claim they can help people move through “shadow work” by wrapping self-love language around a marketing and coaching plan they want you to buy.
The average cost of life coaches selling the ability to transform another through shadow work can be thousands of dollars. These “coaches” won’t take no for an answer, and when you can’t afford their pricey, shenanigans will instruct you to take out new credit cards to afford their wisdom. Let me save you that $4,000-$15,000. LEt’s say, for arguments sake, the average life coach shadow work program runs for six months and costs $7,000. Keep in mind, that the program is not catered to or centered on your specific needs, but rather a pre-fabricated package for the masses. For that amount of money, you can work with an actual healer and therapist twice weekly to help you heal and move on, and they will have the clear intention and tools to help you.
When people who have no control over their intuitive gifts, or don’t have any, use the sales pitch of shadow work, it drives me crazy. I’ve seen their inability to recognize or feel dark energy opens doors to the dark energy, and then it doesn’t go away, causing havoc.
I’ve seen shadow work turn good people into depressed people, turn people against others, and I’ve seen shadow work destroy friendships, partnerships, and relationships. When these practitioners of Jungian shadow work begin coaching, they plant a seed in a person’s mind and heart that some part of a person is dark, wicked, and wrong.
In reality, they are gaining your trust, finding out your greatest insecurities, and using them against you.
Energetically this feels like the worst kind of manipulation. This manipulation takes a person’s doubts and uses them for profit.
As a woman who connects to the spiritual realms and has felt the infinite love in the world for people, I can’t get behind this morally. How can you build healing from a place shaming the shame?
This energetic contract is like candy for dark energy.
So please be careful of what you speak. Be mindful of the healers you trust. And look for options when you’re ready to heal. You don’t have to welcome darkness into your life to heal your pain, shame, or guilt. It’s always Light that heals.
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